Having a child is something that will change your life and I know it really changed mine, not only did I suddenly have my life turned upside down by this little bundle of joy, but I also discovered that just because I had a child and my life changed dramatically overnight it did not mean that everyone around me would suddenly drop everything and revel in the baby shenanigans.
Being a first time mum was at first a very lonely experience for me, I felt like my life had stopped overnight and suddenly I had just become a mum, no longer was I the fun daft , a bit to loud and talkative (with a very rude sense of humour) Helen who could be incredibly dizzy and dappy. I felt like my friends had deserted me and that I no longer had a rightful place in my social circle. Why would I, I thought no one would be interested in my tired and sleep deprived baby ramblings. Let alone the fact that I felt like I was a useless mother. I really felt like everything I was doing for C was completely wrong. My poor hubby did not know which way to turn no matter how much he tried to reassure me that my friends had gone nowhere and that whenever I wanted I could go out I would find a way out of doing the thing I most wanted, I made many many excuses to not go out.
My husband was my backbone and the most patient person in the world after my I had my daughter. He was so hands on and just such a natural father things just seemed to be ok when he was around us.
I discovered baby groups when my daughter was 3 months old and this is where being a mum got a whole lot easier. I was so nervous the first time I walked into the room, but the one saving grace was that it was a new group and the session I attended was the first ever one so there was no clique of ladies who had already formed friendships, everyone who attended that day and almost every week after were so lovely. Any new mum who walked through the door at 1pm on a Thursday was welcomed and everyone made the effort o introduce themselves and coo over the new baby in the group. I have to say that the friendly atmosphere was really encouraged by the group leaders they were the same 3 ladies every week and they soon became your friends and could spot the mum who was struggling and take bubba off them for 5 minutes giving them the chance to have a cuppa and a biscuit and a chance to breath.
I went to the group every Thursday for 9 months until my daughter started nursery at 10 months old. The group would break up for the school half terms and the mums I had become good friends with made the effort to meet up. And now 2 years on I still meet with these amazing ladies and we now do it on a Friday. We have been through Pregnancies, losses, upcoming weddings, birthdays, and a triplet birth. We have supported each other through each our children’s milestones and stressed and fretted over why lour kids are not doing things we want them to. I feel so blessed to have these amazing beautiful mummies in my life, they have really supported me through some tough months with C and I feel that they have become friends for life.
Having said this I have in the last 6 months come to realise that my friends who were there celebrating with me when I announced I was pregnant are still there, they never went anywhere! If I phoned them they are still at the end of the phone, they enjoy being around my child, two of them are her god parents. I have realised and appreciated that just because my life has changed due to my child being a cheeky little monkey, theirs has not! They still have to go to work; they have to earn money pay their bills and just because they are my friends they should not be expected to drop everything just because I have a child. In other words they are still my closest friends I still adore them and I should be a lot less paranoid and have belief in my friendships, so what if it is a month or two since I have seen them I know that if I needed them they would be there for me.
apparently cooking spaghetti
We recently received an opportunity from John at the Wooden Toy Shop to test and review the BigJigs kitchenware set; when I received it I knew that my daughter would instantly love it. When she found it the next morning her delight was evident.
The box contained a miniature frying pan, saucepan and lid, pan and lid with a metal mixing bowl, it also contained 7 different kitchen utensils including a pasta ladle and a skillet and the bit my daughter loved the most was the red checked oven glove.
She set about getting all her current kitchen toys out and using her pots and pans to make me a yummy and delicious meal but oh no that was not enough she wanted breakfast and this had to be eggy on toast, but on this occasion she wanted to make it in her new mini bowl with her mini whisk so she set about using this very robust little kitchen set.
She played with this fabulous little set for hours and since having it she has taken it everywhere and I know other kids have thoroughly enjoyed it, it really sparks their imagination and encourages them to enjoy making food.
This fabulous little set retails at £13.68 and is fantastic value for money as it is solid and tough set can stand up to the robust play of a 2y 9m old. If you ever need anything to spark your child’s imagination then The Wooden Toyshop is the place to go they have everything that a child could want with no batteries to replace, this is what play time should be all about!
Now this blog will sound like I am having a rant and yes I am, it is my blog and it is one place I can express my opinions, and I would like to stress that these really are my own opinions and I apologise in advance if you are in any way offended but I really need to get this off my chest.
I travel on the buses quite a lot in my town (well small city) and I find it incredibly infuriating that old people seem to think that they have a monopoly on using the bus during the day, I have today had 3 old dears have a go at me for my child falling over on the bus not acknowledging that the bus pulled away from the stop before I could even put my purse away let alone move away from his cab to find a seat. He pulled away so quickly C did not stand a chance she went sprawling across the bus! like I said I was still putting purse away so did not have her hand and three very vicious old dears set upon me telling me that I should have more control over my child, it is not like she was running around and screaming she just simply fell over, I then proceeded to pick a sobbing C up while being thrown all over the bus that seemed to be driven very erratically and sat down on one (yes one) of the pull down seats C was on my lap.
Another lady advance in years got onthe bus with her shopping trolley and ran over my toes and when I reacted as I was wearing flip flops (and it hurt!!!!) she proceeded to launch into a really condescending lecture about mums on buses just being a complete pain and how mums in Brighton are so away with the fairies they have no idea what there kids are doing from one minute to the next. That when they are on they just take up ridiculous amounts of space with their huge buggies, I would like to state that I did not have a buggy with me just had C’s scooter and that was in the luggage rack.
She went on to rant some more asking why we need to be on the bus anyway we have legs why don’t we show our kids how to use them! I was by this point getting very angry and very embarrassed, she did not care to ask me or my child had any reason why we could not walk? I do, a very valid one I have arthritis in my spine and Knees and they get really sore if I do excessive walking, C also needed to be on nursery on time so that I could get home to my own work.
When getting off the bus which really did not take long, a man again getting on in his years was so impatient that the gap between the bus and the curb was to big and to high for my little 2 and half year olds legs, just shoved past us knocking C off the step and into the gap between the curb and the bus which just gave me horror visions of the bus speeding away and crushing her legs. Thankfully this time the bus driver stepped in and told the old man to “hold up be patient you just knocked a kid over”
My bus journey home was sat at the back stewing and witnessing other mums experiencing the same treatment and my temperature just started rise as my temper started to boil. I was raised to respect my elders and give up seats to the elderly, hold doors open for them and to let them by first if the pavement is to narrow, my mum was has always been complimented on how well behaved and what beautiful children she had. I have many friends in my road that are elderly that are like my extended family. I have discovered that some elderly people are incredibly rude and think they are owed something by everyone and they demand to be respected but give absolutely no respect back.
I really am sorry if I have offended anyone but as a mum with a disability, no car and a child who I need to get to nursery and hospital appointments I have just as much right to travel on buses as they do!
My two and half year old Daughter has been obsessed with Charlie Bear since the first time she saw him on Cbeebies and we now have a large teddy bear on the end of he bed called you guessed it Charlie Bear!
Since we put the DVD in the player it has not come out, we can happily leave her eating her breakfast with the DVD on quoting at the top of her lungs “Are you there Charlie Bear” Her favourite episode is the Bonus episode Big Top Bellarina we have now had to watch it a number of times. And we cannot forget Charlie’s good friends his toys Niblit the rabbit, Caramel the cow, Bellarina the ballerina , frozo the penguin, Midge the little teddy bear, RIvit the robo,. All of these characters cover most of my daughter’s favourite teddies and she is desperate to do ballet so we have one little camper who can interact with her own toys like Charlie does
I find this a lovely and simple DVD, a clean simple bit of imaginative play from the cutest teddy bear I have ever seen; I have become quite fond of Charlie Bear! I find it very pleasant to watch and listen to, but then I am a massive fan of James Corden who narrates, you can genuinely tell that he enjoys doing the narration and his jolly friendly manner just adds to the playful feel of the DVD
If you fancy a little bit of bossy Wild West fun then the Wild West Caramel episode is the one for you or you could try basket ball midge which will help teach your kids that patience is a virtue. All the episodes have a little light moral message perfectly aimed at children of a young age.
Are You There Charlie Bear is being released on Monday 6th June at the price of £12.99 it is the first ever DVD from the Charlie Bear range, lets hope it is not the last. We certainly will be purchasing the next. It comes with many added extras like fun printouts for you children to colour I have had much fun with my daughter colouring in some Charlie Bear pictures. A bonus episode “big top bellarina”
My daughter and I highly recommend this gorgeous DVD, it has really sparked her imagination and role playing and guess what her toys Bun Bun and Moo Moo are always involved along with her very own Charlie Bear.
Originally written for Brighton Mums/mamas reviews
I have had a cracking few weeks busy but very fun. My gorgeous C has been on top form she has come out with some cracking comments that have just had me in stitches my favourite happened tonight and it tickled my hubby so much he actually felt the need to put it on Twitter. While he was giving her the money does not grow on trees lecture she in true toddler form retorted “No but apples do!”
I had a parents evening and as a parent it is nerve wracking enough wondering what the hell the staff are going to tell you about the child that you are so proud of (but know in secret can be a complete pain in the arse) thankfully I had nothing but glowing reports of what an intelligent, energetic and loving little girl I had, I was told “she just lights up the room” I was the proudest Mummy ever!.
I was not just a parent attending a parents evening I was also a mummy in business touting her wears under the guise as Flour & Sprinkles. I had my cupcakes on show for all the parents who attended to taste and take home, I made a giant cupcake to raffle off at the end of the night. I was told it must be a fix as the nursery manager won the cake and I have had nothing but fantastic report from all the parents and staff I feel very happy and relieved that my cakes went down well. I have also had orders come in for my cupcakes which was the whole point.
I now have C more in the week than I used to as we have dropped her a day a week at nursery and I am loving every minute of having her at home (well most of the time) I feel like we are getting on much better and I am learning with my incredibly strong willed and well spoken daughter to pick my battles and fight them well, I used to try and win every tiny battle and that was just exhausting, now we are a lot more harmonious than we used to be.
I am going to end my rambling on a plead for a little advice and your tips and tales, we are trying to wean C of her dummies and having a really hard time, please could you comment below and let me know how you all did it as we need all the help we can get it is like the bloody things are super glued to her mouth!
I today had a massage from a lady called Jo Kellet who runs a very homely and welcoming massage company called from the seed.
I turned up at Jo’s beautiful home with a thumping headache that just would not go away, on the taxi ride over I almost told the driver to turn round and take me home it was so bad, I am so glad that I didn’t.
Jo was so welcoming and instantly put me at ease, I new from the moment I stepped through the door that I was going to be in very safe hands. We started by going through my health records which took some time as I have an arthritic condition which gives me a huge amount of problems.
Once this was complete we went on to discuss the oils that would be used, Jo was very knowledgeable and came up with a blend that would help the inflammation of my arthritis ease my headache and help me relax.
I had a full body massage and I have never felt so relaxed I even at one point let ou t a huge snore. Jo was thorough and used just the right pressure, connecting with all the parts of back i told her were causing me problems. I left with no headache, feeling lighter than I had in a long time, the sun was shining and I felt in such a good mood I just wish I could bottle that feeling!
I highly recommend a massage from this wonderful lady.
originally written for http://www.brightonmums.com/category/mammasreviews/
After a phenomenal and very successful body massage from Jo I decided to book my daughter in for a session of toddler massage.
My daughter has some major sleep issues and I was advised that massage is a wonderful way to ease a child into a relaxed and fulfilling long sleep. Having spoken to Jo about my daughters sleep issues at my massage, jo had blended a beautiful oil for use in our session
We were provided with a crib sheet to use at home, We started the session with my daughter sitting on the massage couch with her dolly and Jo showed her on her dolly George what she would be doing to her, my daughter thoroughly enjoyed this part and kit really put her at ease, as did Jo with her friendly motherly nature. When it came time to massage my daughter she really put jo and I through our paces as she is very head strong and will do what she wants.
She was not to keen on the height of the massage couch so we set up camp on the floor, my daughter seemed to really enjoy the arm and leg massage and doing three little piggy’s on her toes, she especially adored doing the sun and moon massage on her tummy, she has a herniated belly button and this really eased some of the aching it causes. My daughter felt so free with the massage and in Jo’s warm friendly environment she felt the need to strip off entirely.
When we left my daughter fell asleep in her buggy within minutes of walking and slept for a good two hours, I am using the gentle back stroking and to settle her down on manic nights we do the piggy’s on her toes and some gentle leg and arm massage. I am finding she is sleeping far better and more often than not she is now sleeping through the night, so we now have a very happy and harmonious household.
I received my Schloer bottles through the post in big white polystyrene packing cases, I do not know who was more excited me or my 2 year old daughter! I opened the white grape and left the red grape one all packaged up or so I thought, I came back in the room to find my daughter in her element ripping open the packaging depositing little white polystyrene balls and clumps all over my living room floor.
The only way I could get over the shock was by sitting down on the sofa with a lovely glass of refreshing bubbly white grape schloer, and I have to say I thoroughly enjoyed it, it was so light and refreshing and a real taste of the summer to come. The red grape was the perfect refresher after the mass clean up session. I can safely say these delicious drinks will be gracing my fridge on a regular basis, and will definitely be in the top of my shopping list for all my summer picnics.
Original review done for http://www.brightonmums.com/category/mammasreviews/
My 2 tear old daughter is a big critic of the cups we give her, but the delight on her face when we gave her what she called her “Purple princess cup” she was really taken with the colour and pictures on the cup and the fact that it did not have a hard pull up spout on it but the lovely soft mouth piece made her feel very grown up!
The cup is very durable, my DD has a wonderful habit of throwing her cups when she has finished drinking and it has taken quite a battering and bounced of many surfaces. To date the cup has no blemishes or cracks it really is one tough cup.
The cup is easily cleaned with only 3 parts to take apart. It is a bit fiddly to put back together and you have to make sure that rubber seal is properly pushed back into the lid of the cup or it will leak which i found when my hand bag got a bit soggy. But other than double checking the seal is pushed in tight this is a fantastic cup and an instant hit in our house.
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Lifft Sling review
I was given a lifft sling to try out as payment for working on a stall at the London Excel baby show and I could not have been paid in a better way. I have an arthritic condition called ankylosing spondylitis which is contained to the base of my spine and has a massive impact on the muscles in neck and shoulders also affecting other joints in my body. Having a two and half year old child who really loves to be carried around a lot really does take its toll on my spine (it really does not help that Daddy always gives in and carries her when she asks!!)
I have recently given up using my buggy for the nursery run as my daughter has way to much energy and I try to tire her out by making her walk, but sometimes if she has had a super active day at nursery she is just to tired to walk the long journey home, this is where the lifft sling comes in handy as she gets to be carried and I have my back and arms saved.
The sling is ample big enough for daughter to sit in comfortably; the pouch where her bottom sits is very generous and sits neatly underneath her knees without it digging in. I find it is well balanced as it folds so neatly on the shoulder and your child is comfortably sat on the opposite hip which alleviates all the stress on the base of the spine. Your arms are left free with no child cutting the circulation off or making you feel like you will resemble Mr Tickle by the end of your journey.
I love the simplicity of the sling it is just a loop of very sturdy material in a plain colour with the very funky Lifft logo very handily centrally placed to indicate exactly where your child’s bottom needs to be placed. I have found this sling to be a much need piece of equipment, I now cannot imagine my daily routine without it. My favourite thing about it is the fact that I can have some wonderful face to face conversations with my gorgeous daughter when she is super sleepy they are normally the funniest and cutest ones.
I highly recommend this sling to anyone thinking of getting some sort of baby carrier as it can be used from birth. As a woman with a more than ample chest I have found other slings difficult as I felt that I would suffocate my child but I had none of these worries with the Lifft sling, and a size 14-16 sling will even fit a Daddy of medium build. I am yet to persuade my hubby to use the sling but I think I will eventually wear him down as his arms are slowly starting feel the effects of carrying our daughter long distances.
Original review done for http://www.brightonmums.com/category/mammasreviews/